We can't. We just can't.
Our very existent were depending on supposedly act of love of a man and another woman. Then we count on our mother's womb to protect and provide us an environment and nutrition for formation of our body from simple cell, then her strength to bring us into this world. Our parents, or some other people, then looked after us, taught us to live, provided food, clothing, shelter and education for us. Later, we depended on our teachers and friends (and Google, for younger audience) to teach us all sort of knowledge. And yes, we depend on calculator to tell us how much 3 ounces of gold worth in American dollar.
Even as we became adult, as we started to earn money, we thought that we have a say, final say, of our lives, we still depending heavily on others. A person may or may do some of the following, but I am quite certain you don't do all these: prepare foods, made clothing, build housings, provide employment, clean the road and waste from your home, fill your bank account, look after you when you are sick, etc.
No one can live completely independent from another person. Or object, for that matter. How many of us can really live, like, have a life without technology like calculator, computer, i-pad, smart phone, phablet, etc? (sad case, but so true, no?)
No one.
So independent is just an illusion, an impossible ideal for humanity.
But, we should grow in maturity.
As other provide and serve us in various ways, at some point we grew less dependent of others, physically, mentally, intellectually, spiritually. We started to realize that we can contribute to others. We started to help our parents with family chore. We help our teachers to clean the board after class. We sympathize with our best friends when they lose their love one by accompanying them, give them a hug, pray for them. We able to work and earn our living, and provide for our parents and younger ones. We learned to take responsibility. We also learn to do research on our own, make wise discernment (most of the time with advice or with much experience in making not-so-wise decision.)
In other words, we grow in maturity, physically, emotionally, intellectually and even spiritually.
We can't, and need not, to be independent.
We can, and need to, grow in maturity as a human. That means to learn to be responsible with our lives, and lives depending on us one way or another. Maturity is not about being or becoming independent. But recognize how we can live for others, and live for them wisely and dutifully, and recognize how we need others in our lives, and humbly ask and receive blessing from them gratefully. To be mature means being patient with the immature, for we were so too in the past (and still so in some ways).
We can, and need to, grow in maturity as a human. That means to learn to be responsible with our lives, and lives depending on us one way or another. Maturity is not about being or becoming independent. But recognize how we can live for others, and live for them wisely and dutifully, and recognize how we need others in our lives, and humbly ask and receive blessing from them gratefully. To be mature means being patient with the immature, for we were so too in the past (and still so in some ways).
What we really need to learn, to grow, is maturity, not independence.
Are we, yet?
Are we, yet?
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