We often hear people say that they are falling in love with someone. They say that they have feeling for
that person and they can’t help but to care for the person, follow him/her
wherever he/she goes. Without that person the day is gloomy, with him the
rainbow is out.
But, is the idea of falling
in love right?
I mean, is love a kind of falling?
To fall is a passive, involuntary and uncontrolled event. It
happened out of a sudden, spontaneously. It is an un-intentional event. And usually,
falling causes pain, terrible result. To fall hence is more an unwanted event
than desired happening.
What does that implies when we describe romance as falling in love?
First, then falling in love implies that being in love is a
passive, involuntary and uncontrolled event. It happened out of a sudden and
spontaneously. We have no time to react to it. We do not want it. Usually it
end up with pain (break up), because somehow we fall for another person. We may
tell the ex-to-be that, I don’t want it, but I can’t help it either, it just
happened, I just fall for him/her, so we have to break up.
Consequently, we will not take initiative; we can’t, since
it is uncontrolled event. We cannot resist. And then, when those pain come, we
take no responsibility. How can we be held responsible for an involuntary,
spontaneous, un-intentional and unwanted event?
Is that love? Is that
what true love is?
Love is a verb. It is suppose to be active, voluntary, and controlled
event. One is supposed to be able to choose who to and not to love. It should
be intentional. He wills to love, he chooses to love, he wants to love, and
therefore he loves. He wants to be responsible to and for her life. That means,
to love someone is a choice, a decision, a commitment. Affection may be part of
the elements, but it is not the deciding factor. One can still choose to love
another, to determine to care for another person without feeling, even in spite
of feeling (bad feeling).
Reflections:
1. Is a relationship as important as love or romance or marriage (!) consistent with the idea of falling?
2. How do you define love? How this definition is affecting your relationship and how you view relationship?
1. Is a relationship as important as love or romance or marriage (!) consistent with the idea of falling?
2. How do you define love? How this definition is affecting your relationship and how you view relationship?
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